“And she gave birth to her firstborn son and wrapped him in swaddling cloths and laid him in a manger because there was no place for them in the inn.” Luke 2:7I’ll be honest here. I have been avoiding writing this blog the last few days. Why? I didn’t want to dampen the Christmas spirit writing about the plight of foster kids. Sounds cowardly? Maybe. But I can’t avoid it any longer. I need to … [Read more...] about No Room in the Inn: An Advent Reflection of a Foster Mom
Just three days shy of turning five, she was dropped off to live with us. We were her second placement. From the moment she stepped into our home, all she talked about was her upcoming birthday. She couldn't wait. It was something for her to look forward to. Birthdays are fixed. It doesn’t change. Two days later, one day before her fifth birthday, I received a phone call from the court informing … [Read more...] about Lesson 4: You are an Advocate, not just a Foster Parent
There is a lot of similarities between fostering and becoming a brand new mom. I survived my first week as a brand new mom on the phone, asking for help. I had just delivered a sweet little boy through an emergency c-section and finally got settled in to our home. Many moms talked about how they hated being in the hospital, but me, I loved it. Every couple of hours someone came in to … [Read more...] about Lesson 3: How to Get and Keep the Support You Need in Fostering
*You don't want to miss the first lesson on Effective Fostering. Go to Lesson 1: Know Thy Self and be on the road to smart and effective fostering.* The telephone rang. “Please bring Johnny to the DCFS office within an hour. The court has ordered reunification.” “I'm sorry what?! I thought you recommended against reunification? I thought you thought it was really unlikely it would be … [Read more...] about Lesson 2: Get comfortable with ambiguity and ask for clarity.
Starting on the foster journey? Welcome. There is no greater honor and responsibility that we as humans have than to love another human being. Many parents experience a new intensity of love and a sense of attachment as they watch a tiny human being enter the world. Fostering is like giving birth, but perhaps more like a surrogate. You carry are responsible for making sure that the child is … [Read more...] about 10 Lessons to Becoming Effective Foster Parents Overview