Hello! I'm Rebecca. Welcome to Real Life Surprises. Do you want purpose, compassion, and joy in your everyday life? Do you need help focusing on what really matters? This blog is for you. The truth is that it is so easy to get side tracked from the things that are important. So many things feel urgent. We unknowingly (and knowingly) focus away from the things that really matter because it … [Read more...] about Welcome to My Blog
*You don't want to miss the first lesson on Effective Fostering. Go to Lesson 1: Know Thy Self and be on the road to smart and effective fostering.* The telephone rang. “Please bring Johnny to the DCFS office within an hour. The court has ordered reunification.” “I'm sorry what?! I thought you recommended against reunification? I thought you thought it was really unlikely it would be … [Read more...] about Lesson 2: Get comfortable with ambiguity and ask for clarity.
Starting on the foster journey? Welcome. January 22, 2015, is a date that I will remember for a long time. It is the date we received our first foster placement. To me, it feels a little like the date that I gave birth as a surrogate. At 7:30 pm, we welcomed into our home and into our hearts twin eight-month-olds. We didn't think we can handle twins but with God's grace and lots of help from … [Read more...] about Introduction to the 10 Foster Care Tips to Effective Fostering
Bed in place? Check! Dresser in place? Check! A stuffed animal ready for snuggles? Check! Locks in place? Check! Kitchen knives put away? Check! Our house has cleared the last walk through. We have been certified. We are ready! So, we think. My husband and I thought so. But, we learned some hard but important lessons on becoming effective foster parents. Many of us enter fostering excited, … [Read more...] about Lesson 1: Know Thyself – Limitations and Capacity
“How do I raise children who love Jesus wholeheartedly?” As I begin writing this series, I want to state that I am exactly where you are. I am asking the same question as you are. Wouldn't it be great if there was a blueprint for making this happen? I love Jesus (who He is, what He is about, and the life that I am invited to live) and I want my kids to grow up to love Him too. I love my kids … [Read more...] about 7 Principles for Raising Kids Who Love Jesus Wholeheartedly
Have you ever cringed at hearing your kids tone as they talked to each other or to you? I have. I thought, “Where did they learn this behavior?” Then the moment of exasperation came when I realized, “They learned it from me!” I had not sat with them intentionally instructing, “You need to use this tone when you’re frustrated, or when you disapprove of something.” But, they watched, they heard, and … [Read more...] about Principle 1: It Begins with Us. We Will Get What We Are.